Tuesday, 29 December 2009 13:57 Last Updated on Wednesday, 30 December 2009 00:04 Written by morriskl

When you are thinking about sex for the first time, you may be nervous, excited, uncomfortable etc. It implies that you may not know exactly what you are feeling because of the pressure about things like, “How would I look without clothes”, or “What if I do something wrong”. The list may go on. But let us make something clear here. It is natural for both the partners to be nervous for the first time. But keeping in mind a few tips will help you ease the stress and enjoy the moments completely.

 First thing is Relaxation. The point is to understand that nothing can be done forcibly. So as and when you and your partner feel comfortable enough, you can proceed. Take time to know each other and comfort each other so that nothing hinders.

 Second is the understanding. You both have known each other for quite a time now and you both agree to move on. Sex is something that must be accepted by both of you to enjoy it to the fullest. Also spend good amount of time to choose the place which is agreed upon by both of you. Another thing that counts is protection. You must keep this point at the top of the priority lists.

 Communication comes next. Without talking openly about sex, you can not feel relaxed, comfortable and willing. Talk about your plans, place, time, clothes and everything that can be considered related to sex. This will ease you into the act and you both will feel comfortable while having sex.

 Now let us say that you are through with all the above stated things, so what to do first? Well, first of all, don’t panic. When you feel that both of you are excited physically, then everything will fall into place and you will know yourself exactly what to do. You can start with foreplay to get going; making rhythmic movements, touching each other, holding, kissing and whispering sweet nothings to each other. Foreplay is a very important part of sex and therefore, proper time should be devoted to it. It will lead to arousal of physical desires, therefore making further act of penetration easy and painless.

 After this you can pace things up. Nibbling, licking, kissing, oral sex, and even masturbation can follow foreplay. This will help in making you both well acquainted with each other’s bodies. You can even ask your partner what arouse him/her the most. Understand the body language. Holding hair, moving fingers, moaning, all these are inviting signals. They tell you to go ahead with whatever you are doing. So, do not stick to one part of the body. Make variations. Move between fast and slow pace.

 When you are on the verge of putting penis into her vagina, ensure it is properly lubricated. If not, then do use a lubricant as otherwise, it will be painful for both of you. And be tender while doing so. Keep talking to your mate about your next move and work through it. With all this, your first sex experience will surely be an everlasting experience for both of you.